Resetting Mom Rage | Virtual Therapy For Moms
Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed by anger as a mom? Mom rage, or parental anger, often stems from a lack of support and overstimulation. Our virtual BC therapists help you cope with your feelings as a mom so you can turn shame into self compassion.
There’s a version of motherhood you were probably sold: nurturing, joyful, patient, fulfilling. The kind that’s portrayed in filtered photos and well-meaning parenting books. But there’s another side to it that’s quieter, lonelier, and often wrapped in shame: the side where you find yourself losing your temper with your child, crying in the bathroom, or feeling a wave of rage that you didn’t know you were capable of.
That’s mom rage. And if you’ve felt it, let us make this clear: there’s nothing wrong with you, and you are not alone in that feeling. You’re a good mother who has likely been holding too much for too long.
At Vitality Collective, our compassionate therapists support moms across Vancouver, Surrey, Chilliwack, and all over BC through online counselling. As moms ourselves, we work with individuals to work through their anger—not by suppressing it, but by listening to it. Because underneath that rage is often a deep need: to be seen, to be helped, to have space, to be more than a 24/7 caregiver.
Baby Years: When rage and intrusive thoughts collide
If you’re in the thick of newborn life as a new parent, you’re no stranger to exhaustion and overstimulation. You might be shocked by how quickly your temper flares: at the baby’s cry, at your partner snoring while you’re up for the fifth time that night, or at yourself for not feeling “grateful enough” for your beautiful baby.
Mom rage in the postpartum period can also be tied to intrusive thoughts, “What if I hurt the baby? What if I drop them?” that leave you feeling terrified and ashamed. These thoughts are common, especially in those experiencing postpartum anxiety. They don’t mean you want to hurt your child. They mean your nervous system is overwhelmed and scanning for danger.
You are not a bad mom for feeling angry, scared, or even resentful in these early months. You’re a person whose world just turned upside down.
Postpartum counselling can be a lifeline in this stage, helping you understand the hormones behind your mood swings, reduce shame around intrusive thoughts, and find ways to ground yourself during intense emotional spikes.
Toddler & Elementary Years: When overwhelm boils over
Toddlers and young kids are curious, loud, boundary-testing little humans. And for moms, this can mean constant interruptions, overstimulation, and relentless demands. You may find yourself snapping more than you’d like, maybe over spilled cereal, shoes that still aren’t on, or hearing “MOM!” one too many times.
This is often when rage becomes a reflex. And it’s not because you’re impatient—on the contrary, you are the most patient. It’s because you’re running on empty.
You may be carrying the full weight of the emotional labour in your household: keeping track of appointments, playdates, what needs to go in the backpack, and how everyone is feeling. When your own needs go unmet for too long, your nervous system starts ringing alarm bells. Rage becomes your body’s way of saying, “I need help.”
We help moms at this stage untangle guilt from anger, and identify what their triggers are really telling them. Often, it’s about chronic overstimulation and emotional burnout. With support, you can learn how to regulate your nervous system, communicate your limits, and repair connection with your kids after moments of rupture.
Parenting Teens: When rage covers grief and disconnection
No one really prepares you for how painful it can be to parent a teenager. You might feel your role shifting in ways that leave you unmoored: less needed, less listened to, and more rejected than you expected. This can bring up rage, yes, but also grief.
Mom rage in the teen years often comes from a place of heartbreak. You want to connect with your child, but their eye rolls, boundary-pushing, or silence feel like emotional landmines. You might also find old wounds being triggered, such as how you were treated as a teen, or how your parents handled your own big feelings.
You are not failing. You are navigating a deeply complex emotional terrain, often while still managing the rest of life. Through therapy, we help you regulate in the face of teen pushback, hold space for both of your emotional needs, and repair when things go off the rails.
Why guilt follows rage (and what to do about it)
Almost every mom we support says some version of: “I feel awful after I yell. I hate that I do this.” That shame spiral is what we call mom guilt, and it’s incredibly common. But guilt doesn’t make you a better parent—it just makes you feel stuck.
What if we reframed rage as a signal rather than a flaw? A sign that something inside you needs tending to, whether that’s more rest, more boundaries, more support, or simply more space to be human.
In therapy, we don’t try to “fix” you. We work with you to understand what your anger is trying to protect, and help you build the internal tools (and external systems) that make it easier to show up the way you want to—without abandoning yourself.
What to expect in therapy for mom rage
Seeking help through therapy for mom rage doesn’t mean you’ll be judged or asked to “calm down.” It means stepping into a space that’s entirely yours, where you can drop the mask, say the hard things out loud, and be met with compassion instead of criticism. Our BC virtual therapists will work with you to gently explore the roots of your anger with you, whether that’s burnout, trauma, perfectionism, or just the impossible standards of modern motherhood. Together, we’ll look at what your anger is trying to communicate, not as something to silence, but as a signal worth listening to.
Depending on your unique needs, your therapist may draw from approaches like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to help shift reactive thought patterns, Somatic Therapy to reconnect with your body and regulate your nervous system, Narrative Therapy to re-author stories shaped by guilt or shame, or Internal Family Systems (IFS) to explore and heal the parts of you that feel angry, exhausted, or unseen. Therapy might involve learning emotional regulation tools, practicing self-compassion, setting boundaries, and tending to old wounds that are still echoing into the present.
You don’t have to have it all figured out before you seek mom therapy. You just have to show up—and we’ll meet you there, exactly as you are.
Reset Mom Rage | Maternal Mental Health Counselling in BC
We live in a culture that praises “selfless” motherhood, but the truth is, you are allowed to need things too. Rest, support, quiet, space. Your well-being matters just as much as your child’s, and sometimes, being the best version of yourself means reaching out for help.
At Vitality Collective, our BC therapists specialize in supporting moms at every stage, from postpartum to parenting teens. Whether you're struggling with anger, anxiety, guilt, or just the weight of holding so much, we’re here to help. And with online counselling available across BC and in-person counselling in Surrey, Chilliwack, Kelowna and Vancouver, you can access therapy whenever, wherever makes sense for the season of motherhood you’re in.
You are not too angry. You are not too emotional. You are not too much. You’re a mom who deserves to feel supported, too. Contact us today if you have questions, or fill out our New Client Inquiry Form to get started.